In our childhood and during our teenage years, there are some things we perceive as standards for life. Perhaps it is the influence of movies and television shows or positive role models who we think don’t have or can’t have a darker side. We got inspired by this Quora thread to highlight some myths that need some busting in our twenties.
1. A fulfilling relationship is a solution to all your emotional problems.
Be it loneliness, insecurity or depression, we thought falling in love was the best medicine. It has been romanticised in literature and movies for ages, but how true is it in real life? Relationships can be a burden, and many couples do reminisce a lot about the time they were single.
2. Good grades are guaranteed to get you a good job.
I stood first in my class throughout high school and college but I’m not the CEO of a company or a genius entrepreneur earning big bucks in my youth. I’ve seen kids younger than me become celebrities on the internet and former classmates starting their own companies.
3. Everyone has to like you.
Nobody wants to be the weird outcast everyone dislikes, or the kid with no friends. There will always be someone who will dislike us, and it really doesn’t matter. You can’t make everybody happy. Having a lot of friends is not always a good thing. Do we even know the true meaning of the word ‘friend’? The future has a lot in store for us and as old friends leave, new ones take their place.
4. You will have it all figured out by the time you hit your mid-twenties.
If only. Unfortunately, most adults even in their thirties and forties are still figuring things out. Life always throws uncertain obstacles whether hard or simple.
5. Quit something when you fail.
Life is all about making mistakes and learning from them. When you quit something, you start something else, right? What if you fail at that?
Keep trying until you succeed, unless what you are trying to do is of no interest to you at all.
6. Reading and studying broadens your mind by 80%. Experiences count for 20%.
Actually, it is the other way around.
7. What others think is more important than what you think.
To be honest, nobody could give a damn. Even if they have to judge you, it’s for their own amusement and to show how cool they are by pointing fingers at others.
8. One day you will meet the “one”.
All I can say is, keep waiting…
9. Work hard and you shall succeed.
Work smart. Don’t work hard. A donkey works hard, but that’s not getting it anywhere.
10. I am the only one suffering.
Believe me, there are people who are going through the same ordeal and people who have problems much bigger than yours. In a country like India, it is very common to have people starving on the streets and others disowned for who they are.
11. The science stream is the gateway to the world while commerce and humanities are for duffers.
People say this in India because they want kids to pursue engineering. But science is not all that easy, especially if you don’t have the aptitude for it. Today I’ve seen plenty of engineering dropouts and hopefuls excelling in business management and the arts.
12. What the media says is definitely the truth.
In some countries, or in certain circumstances, nothing is as it seems. The media may sometimes be forced to twist and turn information in order to give a distorted impression of the truth. What is the truth? We don’t know unless we get down to find out for ourselves.