The Valentine’s season is quite hard on shy guys because dating doesn’t come easy to them. Unlike outgoing guys who can put themselves out with ease and flair, the shy type always grapple with uncertainty and lack of confidence. So, with Valentine ’s Day fast approaching, we tell all the single shy guys how to up their game just in time to turn this weekend into a legendary night-out with a date.
1. Act Confident
Being confident is the key. We know it doesn’t come as naturally to you as it does to some other guys but it’s actually a glass ceiling you need to break for the dating thing to work. If you’re not a teetotaller, one of the easiest and sure-shot work-around is dunking two or three shots of vodka to calm the nerves. Once you’ve done that, just mingle and act interested, even if it means fine-tuning your ego.
2. Don’t Be Afraid Of Being Turned Down And Go Say Hi
This thought is a real date-killer. What if it doesn’t work out? What if she says no? What if I get embarrassed? All these negative thoughts might just end up ruining your night-out even before it begins, and therefore, it is really necessary for you to set your priorities right. Don’t overthink; just do it, because even if she turns you down, it’s okay. And let’s face it, you weren’t getting anywhere till you tried anyway, right?
3. Turn On The Charm And Make Her Laugh
Most of guys I know who don’t open up too much too early with strangers are closet humourists. So, if you have that gift, then there’s nothing to be afraid of because girls love to have a conversation with a guy who’s funny. Start off with a little self-deprecating humor because that way she knows you are confident enough in your own skin to make fun of yourself.
4. Be Curious And Listen
Ask questions and be genuinely interested in what she has to say. There might be a story behind the jewellery or cologne that she is wearing. Don’t fake it because it’s a definite way to ruin a perfectly poised evening romance. Instead, share your own stories and talk about common interests.
5. Play Hard To Get
If you are in a group, then talk to everyone and not just the girl you want to wind up with at the end of the night. Compliment her just enough to keep her hooked. Avoid flirting with other girls in the group as it will give her mixed signals and make her want to explore other options.
6. Be Nice and Compliment
Women like men who are considerate and charming. Compliment her on the way she dressed-up and offer her a drink. Chivalrous men are a dying breed and it’s always nice to pull up a chair for the girl you like and want to spend the evening with.
7. Don’t Be Hesitant To Ask Her for A Second Date
If everything goes as planned, you might just end up dropping her off at her home after an evening well spent. And when you do, don’t mess everything, and just ask her out for another date sometime later. Tell her that you enjoyed the evening in her company and that you would love to carry the conversation further sometime next week.