It’s hard when someone proclaims their love for you when you don’t feel the same. Here’s how to respond to “I love you” when you can’t say it back.
Love is a very complicated thing. It seems so easy in the movies. We grow up thinking we’ll find that special someone and be able to easily tell them we love them. The truth is that it’s not always that simple. Sometimes we don’t feel the same. Knowing how to respond to “I love you” when you just can’t say it back will be useful in many ways.
People fall in love at different speeds
Not everyone will fall in love as quickly as others. Some people take a very long time – years, even – to fall in love while others do in a matter of weeks. It doesn’t mean their love is any different. It just means they take longer to have those same feelings.
Everybody is different. You may not fall in love very quickly but your significant other might. That means you may run into a situation where they confess their love but you can’t say it back. If that’s the case, you might want to know how to respond to “I love you” without hurting them. [Read: How long does it take to really fall in love]
How to respond to “I love you” when you don’t feel the same way
Just because you don’t love them in that moment doesn’t mean you never will. It simply means that, at that time, you don’t feel it. Sometimes you need more time to fall in love with someone.
If you’ve ever been in this situation before, you know how awkward and uncomfortable it can be. That’s why you’ll want to know just what to say if it ever happens again. Luckily, we have everything you’ll need so you’ll know how to respond to “I love you” the next time someone confesses their feelings. [Read: 10 reasons confessing your love too soon sucks]
#1 Smile and be appreciative. I know it can be a little scary when this happens, but it’s still a great thing. This person loves you. They enjoy you so much they have completely fallen for you. That’s something to be happy about.
Even if you don’t feel the same way just yet, you still care about them. The fact that they’ve fallen for you should make you smile. So show them that by responding with a big smile and being appreciative that they have given you their love.
#2 Tell them how happy that makes you. You can even just say, “That makes me so happy!” It’s really that simple. It might not be the words back, but it’ll be enough to make them realize that you’re happy with their love.
You can even take it a little further by explaining why it makes you so happy. Tell them just how much joy you get out of them loving you. They’ll be happy that they caused you that much joy. [Read: How to be blissfully happy in a relationship]
#3 Give them a hug and a kiss. Sometimes words don’t even need to be said. You can just show them your appreciation by giving them a kiss and a hug. You can even do this in combination with some other tips.
The point of this is to secure their confession with intimacy. It might not be verbal confirmation of your feelings, but they’ll love being close to you. The physical intimacy can help them feel at ease with you not saying it back.