I am 25 and so are most of my friends. I am working hard at my career while many of them are getting hitched. The more I see my friends tying the knot, the more I think about whether I am ready to take the plunge or not. All these thoughts have led me to this conclusion.
1. Believe in yourself, you can deal with your problems alone!
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If you can’t helpyourself, then even marriage can’t help you. Grow up. Man up to your responsibilities and tell yourself that you can deal with shit alone, rather than looking for support from a life partner.
2. Let’s face it; sex life sucks after marriage.
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Debate it as you must but your sex life takes a dip after marriage. ‘Sex in love’ and all that jazz is cool to hear but it is getting down and dirty that always excites us.
3. Find a career and fall in love with it!
That dream job you always aspired for, find that and fall in love with it. Trust me, nothing else will make you happier. You’ll be happier than ever, be an inspiration to others and yes, most of all, you wouldn’t depend on a life partner to make you happy.
4. Love can wait till the time you don’t have enough money to sustain yourself.
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Financial stability. Never forget that money can make the world go round. Maybe love scores the first spot but I am sure no marriage can survive if a couple’s finances aren’t in place. Financial instability can often cause a lot of friction in a marriage. If you aren’t satisfied with where you stand financially, steer away from thinking about marriage.
5. You don’t need to feel that you’ll lose your married friends.
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This thing is actually just in your head. Undoubtedly, your friend’s life will change but if he was a real friend, he will always make time for you. Just wait till the honeymoon period ends, your bro will be back on track.
6. Ask yourself, are you happy with where you stand in life?
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Are you happy with your achievements? Are you content with the things you have? Or do you still need time to be what you want to be? If you don’t have answers to these questions, you aren’t ready for a marriage. You want your life partner to be the last person between you and your ambitions. So snap out of it!
7. Waiting for ‘that someone’ and falling in love is better than settling for a marriage of convenience just because your friends are getting married.
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You will regret it. You might sometime get those feels looking at your married friends but still, marrying just for the sake of getting married hasn’t done anybody any good, whatsoever. Wait to fall in love. Look for that somebody. Just DON’T get married because your friends are!
8. Modern dating can get get ugly but it will eventaully help you understand real love.
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Modern relationships might not be as promising but they will teach you a lesson or two about real love. Heartbreaks, one-night stands and month-long relationships—these will eventually carve a path to more mature relationships in the future.
9. Good friends last a lifetime. Invest in such friendships.
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One thing that trumps a life partner is friendship. You might have many but only a few will never let go of you. So, pick them wisely and foster your friendships.
10. Kids are not and will never be the answer to a successful marriage.
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Having kids when you aren’t ready is nothing but a storm in the making. Moreover, your responsibilities are only going to quadruple and you’ll find yourself making sacrifices at every junction in your life.