Whether you were together for 10 years or 10 minutes, moving on can be emotional and difficult, but sometimes, it’s the only step you can take.
Moving on is an essential part of breaking up. The tricky thing, however, is that moving on is way easier said than done. In fact, recuperating immediately after a separation is almost unheard of in the relationship world. It takes time, and usually one party will have moved on sooner than the other—the other who may still hope for a second chance.
10 signs you should move onward and upward
If you’re the one who has a hard time moving on, how do you know if your ex has gotten over you? The 10 signs below can help you tell if your ex has moved on or has even completely forgotten about you. If this is the case, it’s time for you to move on, too.
#1 Your ex has not contacted you. After breaking up, your ex has not attempted to contact you, and it is always you who tries to contact him. He may not want to discuss anything with you, or has found no reason to look back or resolve anything with you. Furthermore, he may have even changed his number or is simply not available to talk. Even your offer to be friends with him when your call went to voicemail went unanswered. Bottom line is, if he wanted to reconcile, he would have sought you out. [Read: Should you have no contact with your ex?]
#2 Your ex has returned all your stuff. The only time he contacted you was right after you broke up and he asked to have the keys to his place back. He also asked to have his shirts, his jackets, his favorite pillow and blanket, his autographed baseball hat, and even the jewelry he gave you returned. Not only is he over you, but he wants nothing to do with you.
#3 Your ex has told you to move on. Whether you were the one to end things or your ex was, there could be times that you have tried to contact him to ask to get back together. Each time, however, he has told you that he has moved on and you should, too. You’re about to tell them that you will change to make things better, but he cuts you off. “It’s me, not you,” he tells you.
This puts an end to any hope for reconciliation, because he is denying you any opportunity to try and repair the damage done to the relationship. By implying that he’s the problem, he’s telling you to stay back and stay away. [Read: 8 reasons getting back with your ex is self-sabotage]
#4 Your ex does not seem to be interested in you. You call him and he doesn’t answer. You even texted that drunk text, but nada, not a word in return. You might leave hints to him or his friends on Facebook, but even then, he seems unfazed.
Even your mutual friends tell you your ex seems fine. There may have been times when you’ve bumped into each other in the street and he seemed disinterested or indifferent. He may even try to avoid you. In all honesty, he is probably just not interested in you anymore. This may be because he is interested in someone else, or just because he no longer feels that the two of you are compatible. [Read: 7 resolute ways to resist the urge to call your ex]
#5 Your ex has removed you from all of his social networking sites. One day, you open your social media account and he doesn’t show up in the newsfeed anymore. You can’t cyber-stalk him and see where he’s been hanging out since you broke up. In addition to changing his relationship status from “in a relationship” to “single,” he has completely blocked you from all his social media accounts—a clear sign that he is erasing you from his life. [Read: Online obsessions: Obsession over an ex]