In a world filled with casual sex, booty calls and non-exclusive relationships, how are you supposed to know if your relationship is headed somewhere? Look, dating isn’t easy. And finding a compatible partner has a lot more to do with blind luck than real persistence. But let’s be honest, it’s also not as hard as people make it out to be.
If you listen to your gut, use common sense, and most importantly, use those things called words, you can avoid a lot of game-playing, pick-up artistry and time wasting.
So, if you really want to know whether the man you’re seeing/shagging/Tindering/etc. is into you, ask him. Life is not an episode of Sex and the City and Carrie Bradshaw can’t solve your dating problems for you.
If you are really too shy to ask, or you’re afraid of what you’ll hear, or you’re worried that you might scare him off, there are a few behavioural clues that can give you insight on what he’s thinking.
But if you built a two or three bedroomed castle with a white picket fence in the air after four dates, and no proper conversations, don’t blame me when things go awry. Love is not an actual science. Yet.
1. He introduces you to his people
This one is pretty obvious. Unless he’s a total sociopath or a serial dater, he probably won’t introduce you to his mom or his best friend if he doesn’t plan on seeing you again.
2. He takes you to his favourite places
If you don’t want to hang out with someone in the near future, you probably won’t show them where exactly you plan on hanging out in future…
3. He includes you in future plans
If he tells you in April that he’s really not looking forward to the boring wedding he’s dragging you to in October, he means business.
4. He holds your hand in public
Another obvious one. Not only is he “claiming” you (it’s not sexist, it’s just normal animal behavior), but he’s also offering tenderness and support in a way that won’t necessarily lead to sex.
5. He remembers things about your life and asks questions about things that doesn’t concern him directly
This means he sees you as a human with your own interests and life, and he’s genuinely interested in what you get up to, are feeling and like, outside of the relationship.