Dealing with jealousy is hard. If you aren’t ready to let your jealous girlfriend go, try these things to help calm her fears and stop the battling.
It is human to be a little jealous when you see your significant other looking at someone else or to watch someone interested in them. But there comes a point where it is tantamount to distrust. If your jealous girlfriend continually distrusts you to the point of smothering you, consider whether it is worth it or not to be with her.
We love people who aren’t good for us or make us so frustrated, we want to rid them from our lives. At the same time we are drawn to them and love them dearly. That poses a severe hardship for someone who constantly tries to prove themselves to be trustworthy only to be told at every turn they aren’t.
Maybe you feel if things don’t change, you are going to end your relationship. But if you don’t want it to end, examine your own behaviors. If your jealous girlfriend has a tendency to be even keeled, and you don’t see any other jealous tendencies in her relationship with others, something else maybe driving her behavior.
18 things to calm your jealous girlfriend’s fears
There are things you can do to calm her fears. Learning to see the cycle altering your own responses may be enough to find a way to get past the jealousy and make for a smoother ride. If you listen to the signals she sends you; you may be able to combat her insecurities and build the trust to straighten out your relationship and get it unstuck.
#1 Make her feel valued. Many people who experience jealousy lack self-esteem and look for someone to validate them. When a jealous girlfriend doesn’t feel safe, she constantly looks for attention from you. Even if she doesn’t think you are cheating on her, she may know that is an automatic trigger for attention from you.
If you make her feel needed and valued, she likely won’t seek your approval and attention in the wrong ways. Instead she feels settled knowing you are hers and she is yours. [Read: 20 ways to make your girlfriend incredibly happy!]
#2 Keep track of what sets her off. Women are cyclical beings. I would bet she gets more jealous when there are things going on outside of what happens in your relationship. I know this sounds ridiculous, but keep a journal of when she seethes with jealousy. Likely, you can almost pinpoint her moods according to the time of the month and other stressors occurring in her life. If you notice a pattern, it makes it easier to head it up and not do the things driving her so mad when she is her most sensitive.
#3 Communicate your feelings to her. A woman who isn’t getting the validation and communication that she needs from you will likely think you are giving your emotions and opinions to someone else. Sometimes it makes no difference if it is a man or woman, the fact you aren’t confiding in her, or including her in your life, make her feel cheated on. If you don’t communicate with her or hold things in, she may misinterpret that as someone else holding your attention and your ear. Making her react with hurt and accusations.
If you tell her about what goes on in your life, even when you have a hard time and don’t want to talk, she knows why you withdraw and won’t make the wrong assumption you found someone else. [Read: How to build trust in a relationship and make it last]