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Here are a few major reasons Why We Are Obsessed With Shaming Ourselves
1. Shaming ourselves is a way of acknowledging that failure before someone else does. It’s the reason some people make self-deprecating jokes or call themselves ugly.
2. Movies and Reality TV’s so often use overweight characters’ bodies as the basis of many of the show’s jokes. It has become the norm to criticize aspects of our bodies as some type of bonding experience with friends – if we all hate our bodies; it somehow makes us feel connected and united.
3. We shame ourselves because we are told that if we aren’t meeting some unrealistic idea of perfection, we are failing. Shaming ourselves is a way of acknowledging that failure before someone else does. It’s the reason some people make self-deprecating jokes or call themselves ugly. Maybe on some level, we do really believe these awful things about ourselves—or maybe we just fear the worst of what others may think about us.
4. We are taught that everything about ourselves and our bodies is up for debate and criticism. We are taught that how others feel about us dictates our own feelings. We are held to an unattainable standard over and over, every day.
5. Magazines constantly offer tips about how to lose weight “in days,” appear slimmer “instantly,” and hide our “imperfections”… without actually knowing anything about us, much less our appearance. This is one example of body-shaming, and it is everywhere.
6. The thought process goes: If I say all the mean things about myself that everyone else is thinking, then I have the power. But let’s flip it: How about you say nice things about yourself and tell everyone else to eff off instead?
7. We are expected to put ourselves down to receive approval or validation. Think about the scene in “Mean Girls” when each character is saying something she doesn’t like about herself. The Plastics each say something like: “I’ve got man shoulders.” “My nail beds suck.”
8. But sometimes, we shame ourselves in front of others to check up what that person is really thinking about that particular aspect of our-self. If we don’t blurt it out, they never will. That is the psychological game our mind plots to check and balance yourself.
9. The jokes and harsh comments weigh a lot more that said in our brains and hearts. So, we start believing the same and shame ourselves.
10. It’s the way of escaping the reality. If we shame ourselves, we don’t have to hear much from others sometimes.
12. Let’s stop shaming ourselves. Let’s start embracing ourselves. A garden looks beautiful because there are varieties of flower in there. The same goes with the world. Just know that you are contributing to something big. Let’s imagine a world where everyone was perfect and looked the same(because everyone has the same definition perfection). Well, that wouldn’t be fun, right? Everyone is unique in their own way and let’s accept it before blurting s**t about ourselves.