Dating ain’t what it used to be, and so you’re playing a whole different ball game. Unsure of what to do? Here is some advice for dating in your 30s.
First of all, it isn’t easy, and dating in your 30s doesn’t get easier. The first date jitters, the tedious small talk, and the hours of preparation in the bathroom. And for what? Some guy or girl that you may or may not hit it off with?
But a little something called hope keeps us going for more.
What it’s like dating in your 30s
If you’re fresh into your 30s *or even well into this decade* and trying to figure out how the dating scene works, I’m right here beside you. Let’s take a look at what it’s like dating in your 30s.
#1 Slim pickings. Yeah, you may be walking into the dating community thinking that it’s gonna be flowing with men. I mean, don’t get me wrong, it is heavily stocked with men. But, you’re going to be going through a lot of partied out bachelors and a fair share of divorcees.
I don’t know which is worse, probably the bachelors since all they’ve done is live in party land. So, basically, there are three types of men: those who can’t commit, those who can but want to be careful, and those who are normal. Aim for the third group.
#2 The biological clock is ticking. Whether you like it or not, there’s a biological clock ticking in all of us women. So, if you’re interested in having kids when you’re dating in your 30s, you’re not looking for a boyfriend – you’re looking for a sperm donor.
You’re looking for a partner who has a stable job, stable mind, and wants to start a family. So, though dating should be fun for you, you’re probably sitting at the bar with this guy with a checklist in the back of your mind. [Read: Ways to know if you are ready for a baby]
#3 You know what you want. By the time you reach 30, you know what you want. You know, somewhat, what kind of guy you’d like in your life and where you’d like to be in 5 or 10 years. Your 20s was mostly spent wasting money on clothes and cocktails.
However, with every drunken night spent, you learned more about yourself. And now you’re here, clear-minded with a sense of where you want your life to go.
#4 Men want them young. This part’s a bummer. Men in their 30s aren’t really looking for women in their age group. They want them young. They want fresh meat, so don’t take it personally. They want this because they’re immature and can’t handle a woman who’s experienced.
Younger women have that “fertile” look to them. If you think back, older men were probably hitting on you when you were in your 20s. Well, now you’re in your 30s and they’re nowhere to be seen. It’s for the best – you don’t want an old guy anyway. [Read: Why you should date an older man at least once]
#5 You’re well educated on the dating scene. You’ve done this all before. You know when a guy is just looking to score or when he’s a little on the creepy side. Why? Because you’ve been on hundreds of dates and you know the signs before you even see them. You’re a seasoned dater. So, take this knowledge and use it to your advantage when sifting through the eligible bachelors.
#6 Young guys want you. Young guys dig older women. No, you’re not a MILF – you haven’t made it to that status yet *unless you have a child*. So, congratulations. Younger men always want to have an experience with an older, wiser, and sexier woman. So, basically, they’re looking for an another mommy. I know, you’re still young. I’m on your side. [Read: Cougar dating – rules for dating an older woman]