Physical attraction can bring two people together, but that doesn’t always make for a healthy relationship. Here’s what to look for in a guy.
We all have that guy in our life who makes our heart go pitter-patter. The problem is that sometimes what the body wants – and what is good for us – are two completely different things.
Sexual compatibility is only one part of being in a successful relationship, but we often put too much stake into it. There are people who we have so much chemistry with that sometimes it can cause an explosion – literally.
But don’t assume just because you want to grab them every time they are around, they are the perfect guy for you.
The way to know if someone is the perfect mate is to find a combination between your best friend and someone you want to sleep with. Now THAT’S what to look for in a guy. Sounds easy enough, right? But it isn’t.
If it were easy, then all marriages would last. Sometimes you have to listen to that inner voice, even if you don’t want to. Find those really important qualities that may not seem like a big deal upfront.
Remember, the man you choose for a lifetime will need to be there to support you through the big and little things in life. Make sure that he is up for the challenge and can give you what you need to make your life fulfilled.
Here is what to look for in a guy
#1 A “roll-with-it” attitude. When life throws you curve balls, which it undoubtedly will, you want to find someone for the long term who knows how to take lemons and make lemonade, not the opposite.
Finding someone who doesn’t take things, or themselves, too seriously will save you a lot of heartache in the future. There is nothing worse than constantly having to be a cheerleader or a cruise director because your guy is way too serious. [Read: Signs and qualities that make a great boyfriend]
#2 He isn’t controlling. You want a guy who likes to take charge, but if he is all about controlling everything, that is going to become very old, very quickly. Control freaks never stop their ways. They like things just a certain way, and that is what they want – period.
Controlling personalities are very difficult to live with forever. This is one of the most important partner qualities, if you’re wondering what to look for in a guy.
#3 He respects your dreams. So you want to be a princess? It may not be realistic, but if it is a goal for you, then you want to find someone who is willing to support you and your decisions. Sometimes we have to make sacrifices to get the things that we want out of life.
If you are constantly helping to foster his dreams and forgetting about your own, you are going to wake up one day feeling as if life has passed you by and resent not following your own path.
#4 He isn’t a momma’s boy. Sure, you want a guy who has a good relationship with his mother, and, of course, someone who respects her. But, if you have a guy who can’t make a decision without mulling it over with mommy, that is not going to make for a happy relationship.
When you form a partnership with someone, then there are only two of you. A momma’s boy can’t ever put his wife in front of his mommy, because, well, it is his mommy. [Read: Subtle signs of a controlling boyfriend]