During the times of Tinder and Badoo, you may have fallen out of touch with the concept of how to court a woman. Now everything has to be fast!
Nowadays it’s weird if you don’t hook up on a first date, but you don’t have to do that. Actually, if you’re really wanting to get to know someone and find a potential partner, I recommend not sleeping with them right away. Instead, revive some aspects of how to court a woman and do it the right way.
I’m no expert on holding out, but, from what I’ve experienced, it’s a relief to not have a guy only interested in the sexual aspect of the relationship. I know courtship kinda sounds a little old school, but listen, you don’t have to wear a girdle and curtsy. This isn’t the 1950’s.
How to court a woman – 15 things you need to know about modern courting
So, if you’re curious about modern courting, here are the 15 things you need to know.
#1 You need to look within. Where are you in your life? If you’re still getting wasted every weekend and spending your weekdays going out with your Tinder matches, maybe you need more time to get it all out of your system.
However, if you’re in a different phase and want someone to be serious with, then consider courtship. This is definitely a method that’s for mature and self-aware individuals. [Read: Am I ready for a relationship? Questions to ask yourself]
#2 Dating and courting aren’t the same. Maybe you thought dating and courting were the same thing, but actually, they’re very different. Dating is more casual, and you’re not necessarily looking for someone serious. Rather just testing the waters and having fun, completely understandable.
Courting is based on the idea of eventual marriage. Okay, if you just had a shiver up your spine reading the word, “marry,” I get it, it’s big step. But courtship is really meant for those who are seriously looking for someone.
#3 Start off as friends. There’s nothing more terrifying than meeting a guy who’s already on his knees, ready to pop the question. You’re courting, so it’s already assumed you’re looking for something more serious than dating.
So, to take the pressure off, why not start off as friends. Hang out with her in groups, learn about her personality by how she interacts with people. Then, decide if you want to proceed or not. Plus, it’s much easier to move on from her when you’re not so obvious with your feelings in the beginning.
#4 Man pursues the woman. Yes, fellas. Listen, modernize it however you please, but usually this is about the man courting the woman, not the woman courting the man. So, if you’re interested in her, you’ll have to pursue her. Call her, take her out on dates. In this aspect, it isn’t much different from dating. Usually, it’s pretty rare that the woman takes charge initially. [Read: How to get a girlfriend 101: 11 tips to make it happen]
#5 You can only court one at a time. Yeah, this isn’t Tinder. When you’re courting someone, you’re finding out if they’re a compatible match for your future.
You can’t be courting three girls at one time, it’s not gonna work. You need to focus your attention on the one girl you’re courting. If she’s not compatible then you end the courtship and start courting someone else. If you’re courting a bunch of girls at once, you’re not really genuinely trying to get to know each one as well as you think you are.
#6 It’s not about the sex. Courtships don’t focus the relationship around sex. Actually, it’s completely the opposite. More conservative people won’t even hold hands or kiss until marriage, but you don’t have to take it that far.