A woman falling in love with a man is similar to what took place when the first woman believed that the men were coming. She dreamed that a fleet of spaceships from the heavens would land and a race of strong and caring men would emerge. These beings would not need nurturing but instead wanted to provide for and take care of the women.
These men were very devoted and were inspired by the women beauty and culture. The men recognized that their power and competence were meaningless without someone to serve.These wondrous and admirable being had found relief and inspirational in the promise of serving, pleasing, and fulfilling the women. What a miracle!
Other women had similar dream and instantly came out of their depressions. The realization that transformed the women was the brief that help was on the way beacause the men were coming. The women had been depressed because they felt isolated and alone. To come out of depression they needed to feel that loving help was on the way.
Most men have little awarness of how important it is to a women to feel supported by someone who cares. Women are happy when they believe their needs will be met. When a woman is upset, overwhelmed, confused, exhausted, or hopeless what she needs most is simple companionship. she needs to feel she is not alone. She needs to feel loved and cherished.
Empathy, understanding, validation, and compassion go a long way to assist her in becoming more receptive and appreciated of his support. Men don’t realize this because their men’s instincts tell them it’s best to be alone when they are upset. When she is upset, out of respect he will leave her alone, or if he stays he makes matters worse by trying to solve her problems. He does not instinctively realize how very important closeness, intimacy, and sharing are to her. What she needs most is just someone to listen.
Through sharing her feeling she begins to remember that she is worthy of love and that her needs will be fulfilled. Doubt and mis-trust melt away. Her tendency to be compulsive relaxes as she remembers that she is worthy of love-she doesn’t have to earn it; she can relax, give less, and receive more. she deserves it.