When the men and women first together. They encountered many of the problems with relationships we have today. Because they recognized that they were different, they were able to solve these problems. One of the secrets of their success was good communication.
Ironically, they communicated well because they spoke different languages. When they had problems, they would just go to a translator for assistance. Everyone knew that men and women spoke different languages, so when there was conflict they didn’t start judging or fighting but instead pulled out their phrase dictionaries to understand each other more fully. If that didn’t work they went to a translator for help.
The Men and Women languages had same words, but the way they were used gave different meaning.
You see the Men and Women languages had the same words, but the way they were used gave different meaning. Their expressions were similar, but they had different connotation or emotional emphasis. Misinterpreting each other was very easy. So when communication problem emerged, they assumed it was just one of those expected misunderstanding and that with a little assistance they would surely understand each other. They experience a trust acceptance that we rarely experience today.
EXPRESSING FEELINGS VERSUS EXPRESSING INFORMATION
Even today we still need translators. Men and women seldom mean the same things even when they use the same words. For example, when a women says “I feel like you never listen” she does not expect the word never to be taken literally. Using the words never is just a way of expressing the frustration she is feeling at the moment. It is not to be taken as if it were factual information.
TO FULLY EXPRESS THEIR FEELINGS, WOMEN ASSUME POETIC LICENSE TO USE VARIOUS SUPERLATIVES, METAPHORS, AND GENERALIZATIONS.
To fully express their feelings, women assume poetic license and use various superlatives, metaphors, and generalizations. Men mistakenly take these expressions literally. Because they misunderstand the intended meaning, they commonly react in an unsupportive maner. In the following chart ten complaints easily misinterpreted are listed, as well as how a man might respond unsupportively.